Since October of 1993 my husband's ex-wife has managed to walk out of
relationship with their 4 month old son, without him knowing that the
first mortgage was in the process of foreclosure, the second mortgage
hadn't been paid in two months and utility bills had been partially paid
for three months and service was about to be discontinued on the
electric, water and garbage. Being a house wife, she was able to
retrieve the mail and discard of it without him knowing and receiving
the phone calls.
Once she was gone she collected AFDC (Aid for Dependent Children) or
fancy for welfare, in two different counties and he was sued for the
amount that she collected for their son. She failed to tell them that
he had been paying her weekly and providing his medical insurance
through his employer. He ended up eating the cost of both counties of
By February of 1994, she had took him to court to claim his house, car
and pension. He got to keep it all, but also the court awarded him with
all her debt that she had created, even the personal loans which totaled
over $11,500.00 with HER family and personal friends! On top of
assuming her debt, it was stipulated that he pay her the sum of
$1,000.00 monthly for family support until October of 1995, where it
would be modified to child support. (It was modified at that time to
From the months that had passed to now, she has made visittion wih his
son as difficult as she can by encouraging him not to visit with us and
speaking negatively about us. She has insuated that I have abused their
son, and has accused us of not keeping our house clean and it being the
cause of his allergies and asthma being aggravated. (His physician has
confirmed with us that he has no allergies and has never been treated
She has told everyone that she is raising her son all on her own and
labled their son's father to be a dead beat dad, which he is not. She
will sing her song to anyone who will believe anything that comes out of
her mouth. She fails to tell anyone she receives child support from his
father and that he plays an active role in his life, althouth she tries
her hardedst to disrupt it.
She continues to reek havioc over our lives and sometimes I think it
will never end. The worse stunt she pulled was in August of 1997 and
she accused my husband of hitting their son. She filed a false police
report and filed a complaint with child protective services. That's
when we seized all visitations with his son and hired an attorney.
We filed a motion to protect his visitations without the interference
her and having a meeting point for drop off and pick up without any
verbal communication with her. We requested that he be put into therapy
to help him unravel some of the damage that she had created. With the
help of a therapist we could help him through his outbursts and violent
outrages he had while playing with our other children and the constant
irrational behavior and crying due to the negativity she had created by
not encouraging visits and her telling him how much he doesn't like it
with us and how he doesn't like me.
Unfortunately we did not visit with him until after the court hearing,
which was October 2. I can remember that date forever because it was
one week to the date that our son had died. I was pregnant during the
time of all this crap going on and had a very complicated pregnancy
after the first trimester. Our son was born prematurely and died one
hour after his birth.
After the heaing the Judge and mediator had thanked us for asking that
their son be put in therapy to help him and ordered that he start
therapy immediately. Everything else that we requested we were granted,
which pissed her off.
She had her attorney file a motion to modifiy her child support since
had not seen him for visitation for a month and a half. Of course she
was awarded more money. After the modification of $1000.00 family
support in October of 1995 to $400.00 monthly child support, she now
was given an increase of $711.00 a month because of the decrease in time
he had with his son. But this is temporary untl our time increases
The therapy has worked wonders but there has been an interuption in
sessions due to her not taking him and we are now in the process of
trying to get him back into therapy.
Because of the break he is starting wih his outbursts again, but we
a better handle of the situation because of the help we have received.
Our only concern of course is for this little boy who is very confused
and is torn about the feelings he has for his father and even me because
of what she says. He will be 5 at the end of June and has no stability
in his life offered from her. Since October 1993 he has been moved 12
times! I'm 32 and have only moved 3 times in my life. Yet she claims
she provides him a stable home.
I am a mother and a wife first before anyone in my life. I never use
children as a way of manipulaiton even if I new I would benefit from it.
I cannot fathom anyone who uses their children in a way that she uses
Truely the only person who is hurt by her actions is their son.
a coniving, maipulating, self absorbed habitual liar who thinks only of
herself. She is lazy and has the stability of holding down a job
securely as my stepson has had the stability of a real home.
As of now she has been unemployed for the last eight months.
I have absolutely no respect for her as a mother or woman, let alone
human being. She doesn't deserve the sweetness that she has been
blessed with who got the raw end of the deal getting her as a mother.
She will never realize the true meaning of motherhood and her undying
selfish acts effects only the welfare and well being of their son.
She has too much hate in her to let go and just let us be and I have
much stubborness in me to let her walk all over us the way she thinks
I married my husband knowing he was a package deal with his son.
promised to be the best wife I could and a terrific stepmother. I have
commited myself to that promise and one way or another she will have to
learn that I am t going anywhere. No matter what accusations she throws
out there, no matter what problems she tries to create between us.
We are bigger and better than the trash she presents herself to be,
in time, we will have saved their son from her evil ways.
Thank you for letting me vent.
No flames HOT enough to burn my husband's ex-wife!